We have been foster parents for over 5 years now and have provided a home for several different teens in that time. Some where just here for a single night and others for months, year or more. We adopted our daughter when she was 16 and is about to turn 18 soon.
Recently, She has made contact with some of her biological family and it has become a blessing. Today she was able to meet her biological father's brother for the first time in many years. He brought her photos and some items from her biological father. Her biological father passed away in 2021 so she will never be able to get to make new memories with him. We have also been able to make contact with her biological mother and siblings as well.
I am so happy for our girl to be able to make these connections and have told her many times that we want her family to be as big as she wants and only want her to be happy. After meeting her Uncle and seeing how happy she was looking at old pictures of herself, father and others I can not tell you how my heart was filled with joy. As long as she is able to have a positive relationship with her biological family we will continue to help her make these connections.
It is has been so sweet watching her make these connections and always making sure to tell us we are her parents and worried we are going to be upset with her. After everything this beautiful child of ours has been through and for her to be concerned about our feelings lets me know we have done something right as parents.
I have heard several foster parents that have had very bad experiences with bio families and it is always something that is a concern. I will always worry for her and try all I can to make sure she is never hurt in anyway. There is no way to protect her from everything but I will not stand in the way of her making new memories with her biological family.
Having both biological and adoptive families support our children is the way the it should work. How amazing would it be if this could be the case for all our children. It is still early but we are very hopeful. Seeing her smile and make wonderful memories is such an overwhelming and heartwarming experience.
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